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ore unmarried babes are becoming attracted to married men, and intentionally seeking them out for relationships.
Surely it’s not new that married men, particularly those in Lagos, are having sustained romantic relationships and open sexual affairs with younger, single women.
Although it seemed at first as though these married men were tricking the single women into the relationships, things now appear to be changing.
It seems that more single women are attracted to married men and actively seek them out for seduction.
For context, a few months ago, I observed reports upon reports roll in on popular relationship expert Joro Olumofin’s Instagram blog over the course of more than seven days, personal accounts highlighting the prevalence of the practice and proving how it appears to be becoming a “goal” for young, single women to have married partners rather than dating someone single like them.
why married men attract unmarried women
The financial benefits associated with such romantic relationships are the most logically obvious first reason why this relationship appears to be flourishing.
On Joro’s Instagram page during the time frame mentioned above, an Instagram user shares a personal experience. He had acquired a ring and worn it on his wedding finger because he was single and had made numerous attempts to attract women. Girls began to gravitate toward him like magic and offered sex for the lowest price imaginable.
According to the anonymous user, these lazy Nigerian girls like the success and stability that a wedding ring represents. I grant that another matter is whether or not he was truly sincere.
However, it appears that many women who intentionally date married men believe that young men their own age are still finding their feet and would find it challenging to meet the outrageous demands they make in order to fund their extravagant lifestyles.
But guess who has more than enough to sponsor trips abroad, super-expensive weaves and all other aspects of the glamorous life these women seek?
Sure, you guessed right!
So the need to sustain an expensive lifestyle regardless of a low economic standing is one reason why.
Another reason for this could be the need for independence; to be free to enjoy sexual satisfaction and all other pleasures of a relationship without actually being in a relationship.
I know a babe who is dating a married man just for sex, says Dairo, a photographer in Lagos.
She says she does not want the clinginess that normal boyfriends often come with. She wants to keep partying and living as she deems fit and not shifting and bending to accommodate some guy in her life.
They meet, have sex, hang out a little, fool around, have some great laughs; after which the married man returns home to his family and she to her preferred life of singleness.
I think, like her, many women want both relationships benefits and the independence; a thing which may be difficult with a boyfriend or some other single guy who may likely start to catch feelings after a while of having sex.
The relative detachment which many married men often feel towards side-chicks is very perfect and enables this independence that Dairo speaks of.
Ayo, a fun-lover, believes that there’s also a belief among women that married men, due to experience, know how to treat women better. For some other babes, this is the attraction point.
Having been with a married woman for a while and being a man in his mid-thirties and older would have enabled him to not just be more financially loaded, but also very experienced at treating women with more care and their bodies to more pleasure.
It is improper to date married men
No matter how logical the justifications for dating married people seem to those offering them, they have never been enough to support the practice of dating another person’s husband and they never will be. Of course, it won’t be accepted as an explanation for married men who also cheat on their wives.
It’s possible that karma will come knocking on your door in the future, but there’s a 50/50 chance that it won’t. But in the interim, deal with the conflict in your conscience.